Self-doubt and fear interfere with
Our ability to achieve or set goals.
Self-doubt and fear are the voices
in our head telling us,
"You'll never succeed, so why try?"
and "who do you think you are?"
Self-doubt and fear are also what
Make us listen to those voices and
Decide to give up before we get started.
While many people experience self-doubt
and fear at some point in their lives,
they take action anyway.
Others remain stuck or are confident
In only one area of their life, such as work.
They are too afraid to try new things like
Going back to school, entering new
Relationships or learning new skills.
When we let self-doubt and fear rule our lives,
we miss opportunities.
We predict and believe that nothing good
Will happen to us, so we don't try anything new,
and refuse to take even low-level risks.
This leads us to discount people or situations
That could help us reach our goals.
While self-doubt and fear can come in
Different forms and from different sources,
we can learn to break through them.
The vicious cycle of self-doubt and fear
I know what it's like to live
With self-doubt and fear.
For years my life was ruled by these feelings.
I grew up in a lower income family in the Tel Aviv, Israel.
I heard over and over again that people
Like us could never really be successful.
All my life I felt that
I will never be successful,
I felt that nothing will ever
Came out of me. I always
Had that feeling that nothing
Is going right in my life.
Everything was a struggle.
If it was work, girls, a decent
Income, social life and more.
I saw all my friends and
People around me doing
So well and being successful.
I can't even count the times
My bank account was on zero
Or I was in debt to the bank.
Life was not easy for me.
My mom had a saying:
"our luck is stuck in an
Elefant ass in Africa and
He is running away from us!"
This is the notion I grew up
With over the years.
I have no luck, I will not
Be successful and I will have
To work crazy amount of
Hours just to survive.
Making positive changes
I had to learn to change my
Attitude about myself.
I read about and talked to
People who had broken
through their self-doubts and
Taken control of their lives.
I got support from others
And consciously began turning
My destructive self-talk into constructive self-talk.
I knew that if I took certain actions,
my mind and emotions would follow.
I let go of people who negatively
Influenced my life.
I told myself that I was important,
and began to plan and achieve my goals.
I learned to have faith in my ability.
My life began to improve.
I no longer saw myself as a victim.
I learned to let go of blame
And started taking small risks.
I stopped comparing myself to other people
and began to open up to new
Opportunities.
If you need help overcoming feelings of
self-doubt and fear, please read these
ten techniques and processes that have
helped me get to this place in my life.
1. Make a list of your fears. Only by admitting
That they exist can you seek Solutions.
2. Write down how these fears affect your life.
3. Become aware of the voices in your head
And write down those negative messages.
4. Start building a support system of friends
And eliminate people from your life who foster feelings of negativity.
5. Join a support group of people who have similar issues.
6. Change each negative message to one that is affirming and constructive.
7. Read books that help you feel better about yourself.
8. Be aware of your past, and be willing to let go of it.
9. List your goals and the actions you need to achieve them.
10. Take one of those actions every day.
Each time you do something that brings you closer
To achieving your goals you will feel better about yourself.
When fears and self-doubts come back,
and they still do, I break through them by
Using the tools and skills I've learned and now teach.
They work!